Album that changed my life: Reyna Biddy - I Love My Love

Category:  Music
Wednesday, February 6th, 2019 at 11:50 PM

Just like you were bound to go through puberty when you were 12, the search for love, inevitable heartbreak and self-discovery in your early 20s is something you cannot escape. And just like when you couldn’t wait for puberty to be over, you can’t wait to skip to the part where you’re married, with your dream job and a dog (and eventually you’ll be waiting to skip to retirement).  

Welp, welcome to my early 20s! I have yet to go through an extreme makeover, but I do have a couple of tattoos that instate my self-discovery and heartbreak. However, it was Reyna Biddy’s album, “I Love My Love,” that made me realize my 20s wouldn’t have to be this miserable, and if they do have to be this miserable, it’ll be okay. 

“I Love My Love,” which shares the same name as her collection of poetry, soothes my aching heart and self-doubt. This album takes the listener on a journey of growing and learning from love: both the good and bad parts of it. 

When I stumbled on Reyna Biddy, I was trapped in a never-ending cycle of swiping, which led to flirtatious conversations, good dates, bad sex and eventually being trapped in fake feels that ended badly. In short, I (and everyone dealing with causal sex, or trying to get married, and everything in between) have this weird, personal, complex relationship with love at this time in my life when I’m trying to figure out how to live my own idea of a perfect existence. 

Biddy’s album is full of songs that detail her own battles with her early 20s, and it’s exactly what every young, black woman needs (or at least it’s what I needed).

The album begins with “Intro,” which, right away, lets you know that if your love life sucks for various reasons, it’s okay. Not even 30 seconds into the first song, Biddy is here to tell me that she’s going to teach me some self-love. “I taught myself how to love all the parts of you, that even you are uncertain about. This was written for you,” she sings. 

After listening to “Intro,” it was apparent to me that I was going to get more than just background music. I was going to grow with her. Now, when I look back at it, I think it was really Biddy talking to herself, but 20-year-old me would beg to differ. 

The second track, “A Message to Women,” is for any modern-day young woman trying to be in love with someone who isn’t in love with them, and how that can be hard. But according to Biddy, you don’t need it. You’re so much more. She sings: “You deserve better than to be called pretty. You deserve better than to get upset and go online to act petty. You deserve better than to be left on hold. You deserve better than to hold onto someone who’s already let go. You deserve better than to be held in convenience.” 

Biddy’s other tracks — “What a Relief,” “A Message from Women,” and “10 Reasons I Could Never Stay” — act as little love notes to the men who have broken your heart. These tracks work as reminders to why you’re no longer together with old loves, even if you’re still in love with them. 

I don’t think I’ll ever be able to choose my favorite track on this album, but I have learned so much from it. I’ve changed my own views on love and have gone through some personal growth because of this album. I still plan on getting more tattoos, swiping out of pure boredom and debating that booty call after being left on read for two weeks, but that’s what Reyna’s second album, “Soul y Luna,” is for. 

Anisa Venner-Johnston |

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