Edinboro’s most sob-worthy places for the overly-emotional college student

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Wednesday, February 15th, 2017 at 5:05 PM
Edinboro’s most sob-worthy places for the overly-emotional college student by Macala Leigey
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From 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., go to class; 4 p.m., go to the gym; 5 p.m. go to work; 8 p.m., go to club meeting; 10 p.m., write a paper, do three other assignments, study for two tests, question your major for the tenth time and drown yourself in stress-induced tears.

According to a 2008 study conducted by the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, 80 percent of college students say they frequently experience stress on a daily basis, along with 13 percent being diagnosed with a mental health condition, such as anxiety or depression.

With stress being an unavoidable part of the college lifestyle, tears tend to build their way into the modern college student’s schedule.

“I think I’ve cried more at college than my entire lifetime before now,” said Edinboro University sophomore Bruce Conrad. Edinboro University’s Student Government Association (SGA)

Vice President of Finance Adam Amann also commented on the crying habits of a college student.

“There’s enough stress [that] I believe that a college student would cry more than an average adult. You [as a college student] have the finance issues of a normal adult, without the money to handle them,” he said.

However, where exactly is the best place for an Edinboro student to privately release their frustration and hide behind their tear stained cheeks? The following are the 10 most sob- welcoming locations on campus.

1.) Seventh floor of the Baron-Forness Library

“No one’s ever there [the seventh floor of the library]. It’s so quiet and you can hide in between the shelves and just cry. And they have cushion-y, foam mats that you can literally just lay on and cry your eyes out,” said Edinboro University student Desi Bailey.

Freshman Amanda Espin also expressed how crying helps her relive some stress. “Sometimes holding back tears is just stressing you out more and more, but then you cry and vent about it, and it’s like, ‘Okay, this sucks, but I can handle it,’” she said.

2.) By the lake

“By the lake, on the bench. No one’s paying attention to you, face towards the lake [and] cry,” said SGA Vice President of Student Interest Christina Brendlinger.

She continued: “Last week I had a nervous breakdown; I was crying in between classes and holding it back during class, so I just wore sunglasses all day.”

Conrad also mentioned the lake as one of his on-campus spots to tear-up at.

“Lately, I’ve been super stressed and I actually found a new casual crying place, which was the space over by the lake,” he said.

3.) Third floor of the Frank G. Pogue Student Center

“You could probably just chalk it (crying/ emotional break downs) up to college in general. Like [think about] how much time you spend of your life at college and all the other things that happen that don’t really have to do with classes, [all] while you’re learning and trying to better yourself. You’re still growing as a person, so there [are] a lot of personal things that emotionally just effect you. Four years minimum, that’s a lot of time of your life, there’s a lot of changing going on,” said Edinboro University alumnus Dakoda Cox.

Edinboro University student Sarah Pyle expressed that she believes the stress eventually becomes more manageable, stating, “I feel as you get older, you just learn to deal with it better.”

4.) Shower/Bathroom

“Stress crying is the best. Where you’re not sad, you’re just angry and frustrated,” said Cox.

In an article published by the American Psychological Association, Dr. Lauren Bylsma, of the University of Pittsburgh, conducted a study explaining that “Why you cry and who sees you do it appear to make a difference in whether crying helps or hurts your emotional state.”

Bylsma’s study also found that individuals were more likely to feel better if they cried alone or around one other person, rather than if they didn’t experience a mood change and cried around two or more people.

5.) Dorm/Apartment

“For us freshmen, we’re leaving our homes and our support system and we find a new support system, but it’s not the same,” said Espin.

6.) Staircases in the Highland buildings

“The staircase in highlands makes sense because after you’re on the top floor there [are] stairs that keep going to [a] spot where there isn’t a floor anymore,” said Cox.

Current student Austin Horner agreed, “I lived there for one semester — [it was] probably the most where I cried.”

He continued: “It’s stress. I’ve got school, really tough classes, work, Chi Alpha, and exercising — it’s just so hard to maintain.”

7.) The Highland woods by seven and eight

“No one usually goes by there (the Highland woods) so you can probably have yourself a pretty healthy cry [by] that little sad gazebo out in the middle,” said Cox.

8.) Dugouts by baseball and softball fields

“Who’s going to walk anywhere near there if there’s not a game going on,” said Cox.

9.) Campus ministry office

Nicole Wiercioch, a psychology major at Edinboro, described that a lot of the stress — and prolonged tears — students experience is because “you get thrown into an environment where you have to answer the biggest question of your life, what you want to do with your life, and [as] if that doesn’t cause enough stress as it is.”

10.) The round tables by the multipurpose room B in the Pogue Student Center

“I think crying can serve a good purpose in being an outlet to help regulate emotions and deal with stress. However, anything in excess is bad, same thing with crying. There’s a certain point where you do need to start coming up with real solutions, but to a certain extent, yes crying can be therapeutic,” said Edinboro nursing major Adam Koehler.

As far as coping with college induced stress and learning how to adult, Amann and Brendlinger both encourage students to take some much needed personal time.

“Take a day for yourself, [and] get off campus. Hang out with some friends. Do not look at school work; do not read a single page,” said Amann.

Brendlinger added: “Get involved on campus, because if it wasn’t for SGA and my job, I would probably just sit in my room and cry all day. So just get involved.”

At 8 a.m., you wake up. Instantly overwhelmed by the day’s responsibilities, and though you have yet to crawl out of bed, you already want to curl back up and sob from the anticipated stress. But no need to drench your pillow. There are 10 other sob-worthy places waiting for you around campus.

Macala Leigey can be reached at eupnews.spectator@gmail.com. 

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