Overheard debates: Dating apps

Category:  Opinions
Thursday, February 14th, 2019 at 8:26 AM

 There are many debates overheard in The Spectator’s office. This week, Anisa and Nathan take on dating apps and the differences they encounter. 

What do you think of dating apps like Tinder and Bumble? Do you like them?

AVJ: Modern dating is pretty much centered around being online, which I think is silly. How are you supposed to establish a connection with someone if you start by not knowing them? But it’s the norm now. I don’t think they’re bad, or good, just a part of how we meet each other. However, it’s always a confidence boost knowing someone thinks you’re attractive. 

NB: I think apps like Tinder or Bumble are fun for passing the time. Most of the time, nothing good comes of it. Once in a while, I have some good luck, but usually I do not.

How often do you use them?

AVJ: Once a day? Not to swipe endlessly (although it can turn to that), but if I’m talking to a guy and I haven’t given him my number, or Snapchat, or whatever, I usually check it to see if they said something. 

NB: I occasionally browse on Tinder, but it’s only when I have surplus time at my disposal. If I’m busy, it’s certainly not a priority.

What do you want to get out of them?

AVJ: Not to quote myself, but “a never-ending cycle of swiping that lead to flirtatious conversations, good dates, bad sex and eventually being trapped in fake feels, that ended badly.” 

NB: I’m not entirely sure. I’d like to think that the best case scenario is gaining a meaningful relationship out of my efforts. So far, anything that had potential ended fairly quickly. 

What are red flags that you see in other people’s profiles (things that are an automatic no)?

AVJ: People with only one picture, or those that message you something super creepy weird about hooking up. The very often “sit on my face” as an opener is usually a no-go for me. Oh, and people with no bios. If you’re not even going to give me a one-liner in your bio so I see what kind of person you are, you are probably not worth it anyways. 

NB: If I see, “I’m a big fan of the TV show ‘Friends,’” I’m immediately swiping left. That show is outdated and doesn’t make me laugh. The same can be said for things like, “If you’re shorter than 6’1”, don’t bother.” I have a dad bod. That one hurts.

Do you have any horror stories?

AVJ: I guess that depends what kind of horror story you’re looking for. Bad date? Yeah, we went to dinner and then a movie and he tried to get me to hook-up with him in the movie theater. Left super quickly. I think that the plus side about matching online is that when they start to get weird you can EASILY ghost them. 

NB: Not in particular. The only horror I have seen is the dilapidation of my confidence and a loss of productivity.

What do you want from the future of theses apps? 

AVJ: I don’t really know. These apps are super trivial; maybe we will move back to something like in-person speed dating again, like it is 2006? I guess...make it more personable? Or just give us a time machine so we can skip to the married-with-kids part, or however that’s suppose to go. 

NB: I’d like to see these apps enhanced in a way to make the matches more compatible. Tinder feels too much like a game to take it seriously.

Anisa Venner-Johnston | voices.spectator@gmail.com

Nathan Brennan | ae.spectator@gmail.com

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